Relationship Type 4 with Type 5 — The Enneagram Institute
What Each Type Brings to the Relationship. Both Enneagram Fives and Sixes are mental types, although there are significant differences. Both have respect for. Each Enneagram type has its own idealization, avoidance and defense in the body and connection in relationships both which happen in the present moment. What Each Type Brings to the Relationship. Enneagram Twos and Fives are double opposites, as it were—a people person versus a loner, a feeling type with a.
Recognizing these patterns in others helps us understand and relate to them. The practices for growth for type Five are: Experience feelings in the moment. Begin to trust yourself to discern who you can open yourself up to.
Relationship Type 5 with Type 6 — The Enneagram Institute
Reveal personal matters, express yourself to those who are close to you. At work, you tend to withdraw and withhold knowledge. Pay attention to how long you talk. Fives tend to say too little or talk too long.
The way you can work with this is by honing your ability to sense emotional cues.
Is the listener interested? How do you know? What are the cues? Can you feel your feet on the ground and connect to your breath?
Type Five: The Observer
A simple practice is to limit your sentences to sentences and then check in with others. They are also the natural protectors and advisors of each other: Eights love to protect less tough Fives, and Fives help Eights recognize the subtleties for their plans and actions.
These two types can therefore band together as a coalition of power and brains, a formidable combination. Potential Trouble Spots or Issues Fives are not much in touch with their physical bodies—they identify with their minds and are indifferent to virtually all of the physical and practical goals that more earthy Eights have.
Not wanting a house, a company, or a spouse are all sources of pride to average Fives who feel good about themselves when they can cut off from their needs and learn to do without. Eights, by contrast, take pride in their earthly conquests, whether socially, financially, sexually, or psychologically.
Making their mark on their environment is a primary goal for Eights and they often use their physical stature and energy to intimidate people and enforce their will. Thus, the more insecure these two types become, the more they react in completely opposite ways: Fives shut down more completely, become more taciturn, secretive, and isolated, while Eights become more confrontational, threatening, and enraged.
The biggest problem is that in the lower Levels, these two separate physically from the other and any real communication ceases to take place. They can also feel that Fives are unavailable and detached, uncaring and unresponsive to their needs in their relationship.
Fours feel they can also be impractical and take too long to respond when a situation calls for action. On the other hand, Fives can see Fours as bottomless pits of emotional needs who drain their time and energy. Fives also feel that Fours' emotionality reflects a lack of rationality or is a sign of immaturity that seems potentially dangerous and out of control. Fours in the lower Levels do not seem safe because of their apparent instability. Fours tend to be easily frustrated with the quality of attention they get from Fives since they can be preoccupied with their mental worlds, not with the relationshipthus they tend to provoke the Five until they get a response.
Fours need to appreciate the minimalist emotional style of the Five, while Fives need to appreciate the Four's depth of feeling. Romantic relationships can get very intense quickly and combust.